is a Step-by-Step way to turn Your Self into a Happier Person…
into Someone whose Attitude is Positive, Whose outlook is Bright
and Sunny, and Whose life is Full and Rich with Goodness and Joy.
a bunch of hype and B.S.!” you say… “How in the
world can anyone claim to know a way to help me, with my sad life,
to actually be happy and positive? Is this some kind of joke?”
this might sound like an overblown claim, but the facts speak for
the truth at your own peril!
You have clear and specific strengths, and once I help you to identify
them you can build your life around them.
have a “strengths centered life,” you will also have
more success in whatever you are interested in.
tools for creating an optimistic attitude you can maintain that
strong attitude, even in the face of adversity!
figure out how to stop wasting your time, energy, and money chasing
after things that absolutely will NOT MAKE YOU HAPPY!
stuck in some sort of misery, you will learn how you can get UNstuck
and step forward toward more happiness.
do what all happy people do… you can find your grove and flow
with it… Ah! The sheer joy of it will surprise you!
these aren’t just pie-in-the-sky promises. No, not at all.
What you have
here are tools that happy people actually use… in a natural
way… to keep their attitudes positive no matter what is going
on in their life. Not theory about happiness, but the facts as revealed
by years of serious research.
is a proven step-by-step way to turn yourself into a happier person!
Andrew D. Atwood, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed
Master Social Worker, and what you have before you is an introduction
to a program that will help you to become a more positive person.
can outwit the dark, funky doldrums that whack you every now and
then by becoming an expert in the ways of happiness! Yes, even if
those “dark, funky doldrums” are hanging around more
days than not… You can learn how to outwit them!
the deal? Are some people just born happy? Are there some people
who just seem to be able to bounce back from adversity with a smile
on their face, while the rest of us are doomed to darkness?”
It surely might
seem that way. Here’s a simple story that might sound familiar.
In our city,
Grand Rapids, Michigan, we have experienced a whole lot of job losses
in the manufacturing sector, especially the furniture industry.
Thousands of people have suddenly (in fact, on the same day!) found
themselves out of work.
To a one they
have had their income dropped, benefits cut, and their future flooded
So why is it
that some remain buoyant and optimistic, while others drop into
deep despair and gloom?
and there are very specific and well documented answers.
people behave differently than
pessimistic people in very specific ways.
But, I don’t
want to jump ahead with a whole lot of details right now. I’ll
give you some of those in a minute.
You, too, can
learn how to behave in ways that will bring cheer to your heart,
peace to your mind, and calm to your soul… even in the face
Once you know
how, these technique work, they won’t be someone else’s
secret any longer.
fact, these techniques are GUARANTEED TO WORK!
Practice these straightforward techniques and you will, for sure,
create more happiness and optimism… or I’ll “eat
What makes me
The tools and
step-by-step techniques that are being taught here have been carefully
researched over years and years - by some of the most innovative
research psychologists and educators - at some of the most prestigious
universities in the United States – and there is more….
practiced these same techniques both personally, and professionally,
and the actually work. I’m being completely honest with you.
Bad things happen…
even to good people. Just take the last year for example, of my
own life. 12 months ago we were moving my parents out of their home
of 30 years and into an apartment in a retirement community. 12
months ago my mother-in-law was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
9 months ago Trudy died. Oddly, my wife’s Aunt Barb died the
same day… Trudy’s sister-in-law. Barb’s husband
died 8 weeks later, and another Uncle, Hank, died 8 weeks after
that. 5 months ago my father, who has been my role model and hero,
had a debilitating stroke that complicated his pre-existing Parkinson’s
Disease and dementia into a real tailspin. My Mom and Dad celebrated
their 59th wedding anniversary in separate homes… a sad thing.
Less than 3 months ago my wife’s brother died of a heroin
overdose… a sad ending to a long life of abuse. Not 15 minutes
ago I received a phone call from my sister informing me that hospice
has taken over my father’s care as of this morning. He is
on a morphine patch and is given less than a week to live. (Okay,
I’m proof reading this letter 4 days after that 15 minute
phone call, and 3 days after Dad died. I’m still dealing with
a sad relief, but I’m not down!) There is more… but
you get the point; the last 12 months have been very difficult.
And yet, I remain
both realistically connected to it all and positive. I’m probably
headed for another funeral within days, but life remains good, full,
practicing what I preach!
And so are many,
many of the clients that I’ve worked with over my 30+ year
career as a psychotherapist. I’ll tell you a story or two
in a minute.
message I want you to hear is that this stuff REALLY works!
It would have
been nice if you had learned these skills naturally as you grew
up, but a lot of us simply don’t pick them up.
Maybe your parent’s weren’t particularly positive people.
had some especially difficult moments of neglect or abuse as you
whole environment was short on encouragement and zest for your life.
genes are full of negativity.
you live in a pretty challenging situation today… problems
at home, or work, to name but two of how many?
There are any
number of reasons why good people such as yourself don’t develop
a positive and happy outlook on life, in spite of unfortunate circumstances.
matter… these techniques… practiced by optimistic and
happy people everywhere… can bring more positive energy to
your life as soon as you put them into practice. Yes, that quickly!
of the practical usefulness of these techniques… why in the
heck wouldn’t I share them with everyone I know?
Frankly, I can’t
think of one good responsible reason why I would keep this stuff
to myself. How irresponsible would that be? In truth, I share all
of this regularly with my clients.
I begin to imagine what life would be like with more people practicing
these techniques, with more people having a more optimistic and
positive outlook on life, well here is what I see:
Less time, energy, and money being wasted in states of depression
interaction between husbands and wives
learning these skills at an early age so that they can be spared
years of misery
physical well being because of fewer stress related symptoms
and imagination being brought to the workplace
in effective personal self-control of their lives
with a more optimistic and positive outlook enjoy a better life,
and practicing these specific techniques can develop that happy
outlook. These are proven facts!
of the most critically important lessons you will learn here is
about “learned helplessness.” If you have developed
learned helplessness, then you are certainly STUCK.
In fact, this
one phenomenon is how I got into studying the whole field of “Positive
Psychology” in the first place. Many people who are stuck
in a sexless marriage are stuck for exactly this reason –
they have developed learned helplessness!
and Hopeful people have more satisfying lives in all sorts of ways!
take some special kind of knowledge to understand how true this
is. You get it, and so do I.
Not too long
ago there was a major report on “Happiness” in TIME
Magazine. I was most interested to read the following list, because
it really got me to wondering about what the REALLY BIG
PROBLEM actually is?
Here are some
of the facts. To the question “What are your major
sources of happiness?” here is how 1,009 adult Americans
answered a TIME poll in December 2004.
77% said “Your Relationship with your children”
“Your friends and friendships”
“Contributing to the lives of others”
“Your relationship with spouse/partner or your love life”
“Your degree of control over your life and destiny”
“The things you do in your leisure time”
“Your relationship with your parents”
“Your religious or spiritual life and worship”
“Holiday periods, such as Christmas and New Years”
And here is
how the same sample of people answered the question, “Do you
do any of the following to improve your mood?”
63% of Women, and 51% of Men - Talk to friends/family
55% of Women,
and 52% of Men – Listen to music
51% of Women,
and 38% of Men – Pray/meditate
45% of Women,
and 39% of Men – Help others in need
47% of Women,
and 35% of Men – Take a bath or shower
38% of Women,
and 30% of Men – Play with a pet
24% of Women,
and 30% of Men – Exercise/work out
29% of Women,
and 27% of Men – Go out with friends
24% of Women,
and 25% of Men – Eat
20% of Women,
and 21% of Men – Take a drive in a car
18% of Women,
and 25% of Men – Have sex
can you locate the missing facts?
Can you see what is not revealed?
If there are
all of these ways in which people find happiness, or improve their
mood, why is it that millions and millions of prescriptions
for anti-depressants are filled every year?
are lots of things we human beings can do to find happiness and
to improve our moods.
something is still missing! Obviously, what we are doing to create
happiness isn’t working very well. What is missing?
Not enough of us have learned how to practice, every single day,
the skills of optimism, positivism, and happiness.
It is easy to
be happy when everything is going well. It is easy to be happy when
you have great relationships with friends and family, when you are
contributing well to the lives of others in a world filled with
comforting music. It is easy to be happy when your life is under
what do I do when the s**t hits the fan?”
How do YOU get
YOURSELF up and UNstuck… and optimistic and positive?
practice swimming every day, then you have a better chance of swimming
to safety when the hurricanes and floods of life come roaring at
Yes, there are
specific techniques that the happiest people use… and you
can develop those techniques yourself.
these techniques and you will:
Develop the skills necessary to engage in “Positive Self-Talk”
which is what all optimistic and happy people do.
the power that ANTs have over you (Automatic Negative Thoughts),
steps you can take to get rid of them.
to be appropriately pessimistic.
“set-point range” for happiness.
of your “mental models” and how they are limiting your
pleasure in life.
put your thoughts and feelings together so that you feel better
every day of your life!
that is only in the 2nd of the 5 lessons included in this program.
There are 5 Lessons and each has numerous pages of material.
can I get started with this program so that
I can get up and out of the doldrums?”
this 5 Lesson program! Each of the 5 Lessons will come
to you in 5 emails (every other day for 10 days). Just open your
email, click on the link… and you will immediately have your
lesson for the day right in front of you. It could hardly be any
there is a problem with all of this, and if you don’t face
it, not even this program will help you.
It is a real
problem, and you won’t be surprised by it. But, more on that
in a moment.
For now, if
you are serious about developing more optimism, a happier disposition,
a more up-beat attitude, a resiliency that helps you to bounce back
from adversity then you will have to overcome this one significant
obstacle in order for this program to work.
what you will have to do:
One: Subscribe to this “Positive Psychology Primer”
and download it onto your computer so you have it available whenever
you need it.
Two: Work each of the 5 Lessons!
NO! I have to WORK at this?
I thought this would be easy.”
I hate to disappoint
you, but yes, you will have to work at this program.
of 3’s” applies here. 3 minutes, 3 hours, 3 days, 3
weeks, 3 months, 3 years.
It will take
you a little more than 3 minutes to subscribe to this 5 Lesson eCourse.
If you spend 3 hours with each Lesson over 10 days you will be taking
a HUGE step toward developing a more positive life. Absolutely huge.
That is 15 hours in 10 days. Get it? 1½ hours a day for 10
days. Not much at all.
The first 3
days are critical. Receive the first 2 lessons and work them. There
will be lots to do in those first 3 days. Do the work! Then, practice
for 3 weeks, and then 3 months, and then 3 years from now you will
look back and say,
of the best things I ever did for myself was take that eCourse on
of what will happen to you when…
You are absolutely clear about what your signature strengths are
as a human being. Yes, in this eCourse you will be directed to a
tool that will help you to identify your top 5 greatest strengths.
Happy people play to their strengths and they ignore their weaknesses!
of what will happen to you when…
You intentionally and consciously inject optimism into your life
even when the tide is running against you!
of what will happen to you when…
You actually practice specific techniques that really help you to
get UNstuck from life’s most rotten emotions.
you ever get stuck in these 10 Life-Sucking Symptoms?
Look at this list and you will certainly recognize your most frequent
Why do I call
these “symptoms?” Because that’s exactly what
they are. These are the symptoms that befall people who don’t
use the skills taught in this eCourse. Let me put it another way…
who use the skills that I’ll teach you in this eCoursedon’t
get stuck in these Life-Sucking Symptoms.
how much work will this take?”
It truly depends.
The more you
put into this eCourse, the more you will get out of this eCourse.
has been designed to be “to-the-point,” and user friendly.
Here are a couple
of pictures of the notebook in which I have placed my own printed
copy of the “Positive Psychology Primer” eCourse. Not
very flashy, but it is meaty!
When you order
the downloadable eCourse, you can SAVE each page of the eCourse
onto your own computer, and print each page if you wish. That’s
what I’ve done.
Or, you can
order the whole thing on a CDRom that we can mail to you via US
And, of course,
you can order a printed spiral-bound copy for a little extra cash
to cover printing and handling.
the downloadable version and here is what you will get:
An email every other day – for a total of 5 emails. Each will
be very short and each will have links in it that when clicked will
immediately take you to a webpage where you will find the lesson
of the day.
Each of the 5 Lessons is about 3 to 5 pages long.
Each Lesson will have numerous links within it that will take you
to other pages where you will find more explanation, exercises,
tips, tools, and resources. All together you will find about 78
pages of tightly packed material.
a lot of fluff here; just a lot of meat.
in the world will reading an eCourse help me to become a happier
the answer: !!! You better do more
than just read this thing !!!
This is an eCourse
that has been designed to be “worked” by you so that
you will build new habits of action, thought and feeling.
is meant to change the way you act, think, and feel!
I’ve worked this eCourse personally, and I have used it with
a ton of clients in my clinical practice. I’ve maintained
a pretty happy attitude in spite of a fair amount of crap in my
life. I haven’t even told you about what happened to our family
in 1968… a horrible set of events that saw my 5-year-old sister
struck down by encephalitis and my brother die of cancer…
but hey… we all have our ups and downs!
goal is to go UP when adversity strikes!
only survived, but I have thrived! So, I figure, why not share the
lessons of life with everyone else?
take a closer look at Lesson 5:
Here is where
you will find… count them…17 links to 17 separate
pages of specific techniques that people use, naturally,
to keep themselves positive.
Advocate for grey, instead of black and white
with your distortions
And 8 more beyond
these that are guaranteed to give you an advantage when the weather
of your life turns cold and blustery.
I call this
eCourse “A Positive Psychology Primer”
because it really is exactly that. Not a very flashy title, but
it gets the job done.
is a relatively new field that has emerged out of the bigger and
broader general field of Psychology. In Positive Psychology the
focus is on what it takes to be strong, optimistic, positive, and
in effective personal self-control… not on what about you
is whacked out, crazy, abnormal, or pathological.
a good, full, and meaningful life?
Here’s how you can create a happier life
For yourself, and others!
That is how
every one of the 5 Lessons begins.
written this eCourse after 31 years of reading and working with
people in my office, and now it is your turn.
you have to take the next step!
But, before you do, remember… THIS WILL TAKE SOME WORK!
I know this
is true because I beta tested this eCourse for 6 months. Yup, I
gave it away for free to anyone who wanted it. I put the whole thing
up on our website and then emailed everyone I knew and told them
they could have the eCourse for free, and they could pass it along
to anyone they thought could benefit from it.
Then I had surveys
that could be completed at the end of every lesson.
did I learn from my beta test?
I have some great friends who really took the time to read and edit
my material, correct some grammar and spelling mistakes, and who
gave me excellent feedback.
it takes WORK to make this happen. In fact, the more WORK put into
this, the better the results.
Of course, that
shouldn’t surprise you any more than it did me.
what the heck! What will happen
if you don’t do the work?
You will probably stay just about as happy as you are, which may
be okay for you.
get stuck in the same old familiar ways.
and helplessness you learned early in life will linger on unchecked.
might well continue to suffer from a lack of positive energy.
relationships you will have with the significant others in your
life, at home and work, will continue to be affected by your moods.
with friends will be no richer tomorrow than they are today.
depression and/or anxiety will grab you, just as they have in the
experience that ugly feeling of frustration now and then, just as
you have. You know, that feeling that comes around every time you
wonder if you are doing the right work in life, living the right
life, being the right person.
will be no fuller than it is today.
if all of that isn’t reason enough, then
what are you doing just sitting there!
something positive NOW,
before you miss the OPPORTUNITY!
You can have
a good, full, and meaningful life!
But, and here
comes the zinger, it will cost you!
now… that’s the price of a pizza and pop. Are you kidding?”
If you think
that is too much, then forget it all and move on.
If you are willing
to plop down $17.99 you can have my 5 Lesson eCourse starting in
a few minutes. It feels like I am practically giving this stuff
away for free.
And just to
take the anxiety away from you entirely, I’ll take all the
you aren’t completely satisfied I’ll give you your money
back. No questions asked. Period.
You have absolutely
nothing to lose when it comes to cash because I’ll refund
every penny to you if you aren’t satisfied with my “Positive
Psychology Primer.” It is that simple.
I don’t believe I’ll have to refund your money to you
because experience has taught me that those who work this program,
benefit from it.
why I’m putting this material out there in eCourse form…
so that people like you can benefit from the development of a more
positive and optimistic way of living.
to share a short story with you, and this is a powerful
story of change.
Sally was stuck
in a downward spiral of pessimism and depression. I haven’t
seen Sally in years, but I get a long letter from her around my
birthday every year. She reminded me of how dark life can be without
hope or help in her last letter. Here’s her story.
Sally was depressed
almost all of the time. She and I worked together for months and
I taught her every lesson I could think of about how she could change
her actions, and then her thoughts, and finally her feelings. She
could, I would tell her, act – think – feel her way
into a happier life.
But Sally was
fond of saying, “Andy, things are always darkest…
just before they are completely black.”
And she sounded
like she meant it.
her garage door, got out a vacuum cleaner hose, and took steps to
say goodbye to it all.
She got behind
the car and attempted to put the end of the hose onto the exhaust
pipe… and what do you know, it fit perfectly. PERFECTLY! For
an instant, Sally felt effective. She was in control of her life.
“I can really do this. I am perfectly capable of killing myself.
Wow! I guess I’m not an inept fool after all.” She opened
the garage door and went inside to think. She didn’t feel
like killing herself.
Then she connected
everything I had been preaching to her with her own actions –
thoughts – and feelings.
had an intense awareness of her own personal power, and her optimism
and hope grew.
Very soon, maybe
even by the time you are reading this, Sally will be living not
in cold Michigan, but in Hawaii! And she is happy! Very happy indeed.
I’ll bet you haven’t gotten that far down, that “dark,”
but you are not likely as positive, optimistic, hopeful, and enthused
as you would like to be.
you love to be a resilient person who exudes optimism to everyone
you like to be a giver, and not a taker?
you just love to be a source of strength to others?
you just enjoy the heck out of being a positive person?
you a little story about myself, and another little story about
Sally. How about another story from a very different angle?
About half of
my work time is spent out of the office as a business advisor. My
partner, Greg, and I team around “Integral Business Planning”
We provide strategic planning and leadership development, especially
during the transition of ownership. A family owned business, or
a closely held business, will bring us in for a period of months
to develop the next team of people who will lead the company.
One of the tasks
we perform for a company is to identify their “A” players.
We look at the strengths each “A” player has and we
work very hard to get the “right person in the right seat
on the bus.” That is a phrase that Jim Collins uses in his
book Good to Great.
team of “A” players is inevitably a team of people who
practice Positive Psychology. Every “A” player,
no matter what the endeavor, is a student and practitioner of Positive
Psychology. They may not know it, but they practice the techniques
and principles of Positive Psychology every day of their lives.
Players just naturally practice these techniques!
The really good leaders in your world are people who have acquired
these skills. Maybe they were born with these skills, or maybe they
had parents who modeled them, or maybe they developed them as children
or during adolescence… who knows? But they have these skills.
That is a fact.
most successful people among us practice the skills of Positive
Psychology every day of their life… and they are happier,
more effective…and they have more wealth because of it.
is no time to waste; take the next step and act decisively NOW!
Hey, I grew
up hearing “Waste not, want not.”
waste any more time or energy acting - thinking – feeling
in ways that bring you mediocre results.
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