“I’m frustrated, angry, confused, and desperate for help. There just isn’t enough good sex in my marriage and I’m afraid of what will happen if things don’t change.”

“I hear you… believe me. I know you are frustrated and frightened because I’ve counseled hundreds of couples over 30 years… good people that have been stuck in a sexless marriage. The struggle you are in can be extraordinarily difficult, even heartbreaking at times. Yet, there is hope. Hope for you especially, and hope for your marriage.”

“You can get unstuck, and you can create intimate and erotic sex in your marriage. I know it can happen because I’ve seen it happen.”

“I’ve assemble the tools that will help you. You supply the work, and together we can make things change. I’ve seen it happen, so I know it can be done!”

Hi,

I’m Dr. Andrew D. Atwood, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has been working in Michigan (USA) since 1974… and I’ve created this website for people that are in a marriage that is in trouble, especially if the trouble involves sex.

I know how frustrating it can be to be in a committed relationship where there is not enough satisfying sex.

Sometimes it is him… sometimes it is her.

One wants to be close, and the other doesn’t.

There is great frustration, and deep confusion.

“Is it me? Am I the problem?”

“What is the matter with my partner?”

“Is there anything we can do?”

“If something doesn’t change. I don’t know if I can continue on.”

If this sounds like you,then you have come to the right place!

This website, as I have said, has been created in an effort to save marriages, especially when the trouble involves a sexless… or nearly sexless relationship.

I’ve pulled together some of the very best advice that is available on the Internet for couples that are in “deep trouble.”

Why?

Three reasons. First, because the research that I’ve conducted indicates that, when asked, 57.8% of the woman say, “Yes” to this question: “Our relationship is in deep trouble because of our sexual difficulties.” 71.5% of the men also say “Yes” to the same question.  Relationships that are in “deep trouble” are hard to live in, and often come to an end.

The Second Reason is YOU.  That you have arrived at my website means something to me, and it should mean something to you.  You have placed a positive intention in action.  You have begun the process of changing your life by pondering a better relationship with your partner.  You have the ability to change your current reality into something that is wonderful.  If you can dream it, think it… you can attract it into your life.  This is a proven fact.  You just need to learn how to create a better way of being… a better way of acting, thinking, and feeling so that you attract the sexual energy your want.  Some call this “The Secret” to happiness, when it actually has been rather obvious for centuries.  I’ve practiced the “Laws of Attraction” for decades and I know they work.  You can learn how to attract the pleasure you want.

The Third Reason is that this website, and all the tools and resources that are available through it from seasoned experts and professionals, is a natural extension of the work I have been doing for more than 3 decades as a Marriage and Family Therapist. Yes, my primary work still happens in my office, but this effort to help people around the world has become a challenging and satisfying way of reaching not just one couple at a time, but thousands of people around the world.

And when I say “around the world” I mean, quit literally… around the world! There is some software I have placed on this website that enables me to keep track of where my last 100 visitors have come from and typically, they come from every continent on this globe… except Antarctica. No kidding.

While you are looking at this page, someone from India, Russia, Philippines, Argentina, Canada, the UK, and Nigeria… all might be on at the same time. Most do come here from the USA, but about 40% come from all over this earth of ours.

Yes, there are people all over the world that are struggling in their marriage.

And yours might be one of them.

But get this… just because there is not enough satisfying sex in your relationship doesn’t necessarily mean that your relationship is in “deep trouble.”

If you look at the numbers and reverse them, 42.2% of the women, and 28.5% of the men are in relationships where there isn’t enough satisfying sex by one definition or another… and yet they did not say that their marriage was in “deep trouble.”

Most that come to this website for help are in a committed relationship that is relatively sexless, are admittedly frustrated, and they are looking for a way to get UNstuck. Like you, there are others who want to have an intimate and an erotic sexual relationship.

What makes you special is that you have already begun to put some positive intentions into play and you are, as a consequence, already creating a sexy marriage!

Can you hear my applause?

Seriously… we have all heard it said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.

You have come here to find another way, some helpful alternatives, some tools or advice that will get you UNstuck so that…

• Your relationship is secure
• The two of you experience regular deep intimacy
• And both of you enjoy erotic sex

You have come to the right place.   I, and the team of experts and professionals I have assembled, can significantly improve your chances of happiness!

But… and this is the sticker… YOU are going to have to do some work!

“What do you mean? I’ve already put a ton of energy into trying to fix out sexual relationship and you are telling me it will take more work?”

Yes, that is exactly what I am saying.

The good news is that the right amount of energy put in the right direction can produce solid results in a fairly short time.

“What’s the right direction? You have to understand that I’ve tried every so called ‘direction’ that I could find. What else can be done?”

Another excellent question.

Remember, the real reasons behind your struggle are probably tangled up in a maze of issues.

If there was a simple and straightforward answer to the challenge before you, I am confident that you would have found it already.

Nobody arrives at my website without having already spent an enormous amount of work trying to change things… trying hard to get UNstuck.

I respect the energy you have put into trying to change your situation.  The fact is that one or the other of you, or both of you, lacks sexual desire and you want change to happen.

Here’s how I can help you.

Take the tools I’ve created for you and introduce a different way of being into your relationship.

Take 3 Steps that will quickly help you to create positive intentions and introduce new, stronger, healthier ways of acting, thinking, and feeling into your relationship so that you have the intimacy and erotic sex you so desire.

You can positively
“Jump Start Your Sexless Marriage”
by following these daily instructions for 28-Days

Instead of just fretting and worrying you can take specific steps to “Jump Start” some energy back into your sexless relationship.

Face it, what you have done hasn’t worked very well or you wouldn’t be here right now looking for help.

You are, I would guess, just like so many other people that have come here looking for direction. “What can I do today that will make a difference in our relationship?”

You can begin by converting your swirling frustrated energy into real action.  Yes, there are actual steps you can take to Jump Start Your Sexless Marriage!

Why 28-days in a row?

There are many 28-day programs for people who are trying to break out of a cycle of bad behavior.  There are 28-day programs for people struggling with substance abuse, eating disorders, and many other challenges.

Here, just as in any other “28-day program,” we know that it takes about 28 days to break a habit, and then another 7 days to build some new habits.  This has more to do with neurology than willpower.

What you have before you right now is a carefully crafted e-Course that has been designed, as we say in the Psychotherapy business, to “disrupt the current pattern of your relationship and to build a new and better pattern.”

You know you want things to be different, but the old patterns are so incredibly hard to break.  But, those old patterns can be broken and new ones can be put in their place.

What will you be invited to do?

To take specific steps to “Jump Start” your sexless relationship.

You will be invited, each of the next 28 days, to ponder, to journal, to communicate, to write, to breathe deeply, to manage your anxiety in new ways, to take an online “Inventory of Strengths,” to look at your body-mind-soul-spirit connection, to touch in a friendly way, and above all, to develop a POSITIVE attitude.  

I’m big on “The Secret to a Sexy Marriage” and this 28-day program will definitely help you to learn about the Secret, and to practice it.

Each day you will be given very specific instructions to follow.  I begin with the assumption that there is at this point quit a bit of distance between the two of you.  The steps that have been constructed are gentle, yet to the point.  You know as well as I do, or better than I do, that only a careful and safe process will work.  The hurt, confusion, and pain won’t go away in a day.  But a lot might change after 28-days of work at altering both your attitudes and your actions… which will evoke changes in your partner.  The old patterns will be broken, and a new pattern will be given a very real chance to take root.

Is this eCourse a lot of hard work?

Well, to be honest, that depends on what you call “hard work.”

Look at it this way; you are spending an enormous amount of emotional energy struggling with your sexless marriage as it is, so why not do something that is constructive instead!

You can swim against the current if you want, but why exhaust yourself when it is so much easier to go with the flow! 

This eCourse will require about 20 minutes of your time each day, which isn’t much at all considering all the time you can waste being frustrated and unhappy.

Frankly, the biggest challenge will be to stay focused on the one-day-at-a-time format of this eCourse.  If you jump ahead, you will become distracted and anxious.  Stay with the work of the day and then go to the next day, and then the next day… until you have worked through all 28-days.

Make yourself a lot smarter and a lot wiser by digging into my 300+ page ebook

Great Marriage!
Great Sex!
Hopeful Solutions for Your Sexless Marriage

Where did you learn about “healthy sex?”

Seriously, take a moment and reflect on the knowledge and experience you have acquired over the years about what makes “healthy sex”.   Some of your education may have been pretty solid, and some of it may have been pretty sordid.

I’ve put together a 300+ page downloadable ebook that is full of up-to-date information about what gets in the way of healthy intimacy and erotic sex, and how to get UNstuck and into a better life.

Great Marriage!  Great Sex!
Hopeful Solutions for Your Sexless Marriage

Here is a quick detail that you may be interested in, but probably aren’t.  Ken Wilber is clearly the most avant-garde philosopher in our world today.  His “Integral Theory” explains how everything relates to everything else.  I’ve been studying Integral Theory since 1995 and it has greatly impacted how I act, think, and feel about life.  And, Integral Theory has brought organization to the way I work with couples.

While I live in a certain amount of clutter in both of my offices (at home and at work) I despise a cluttered idea.  I like clean and well organized ideas.

Your struggle with intimacy and erotic sex is connected to one or more of the following five “challenge areas.”

The First Struggle Area might be with
Biological Challenges

Here is a simple fact:  There are so many different biological challenges that might be facing you it isn’t even funny.  You might know about some of the more obvious ones, like a bad back or being overweight, but there are also a lot of very, very important biological challenges that are escaping your awareness.

For example, how much do you know about your partner’s arousal threshold and orgasmic threshold?  Do you know what foods raise or lower both, how age affects both, and how work pressure can side-track both? 

I could go on and on and on.  Learn about some of the ordinary, and some of the extraordinary biological challenges that may be affecting your relationship and take some action.

The Second Struggle Area might be with
Relationship Challenges

You know this is an issue.  You know that the two of you are struggling because you aren’t together intimately or erotically.  Relationship challenges are real and if they aren’t addressed the spiral can spin out of control.

This is, quit frankly, my area of expertise.  You can check our catalogue for more useful tools to help strengthen your relationship. 

What I know after more than 30 years “in the chair” working with couples is that there are three big symptoms that show up in troubled relationships.

First, when there is a lack of safety and trust, a lack of openness and vulnerability between a man and a woman, the result is both a physical distance and an emotional distance.  You two might have “grown apart” over time.

Second, there is intense frustration between two people in a marriage when they don’t get what they want.  Frustration usually is manifested in anger, and sometimes that anger is acting out actively and sometimes it is acted out passively.  How many times have I heard, “If you won’t give me what I want, then I won’t give you what you want.”  Ugg.  That is always a killer.

Third, there is a conflict around a lack of teamwork in various places in your relationship.  You are struggling with sex, with money, with getting the garbage to the curb, with in-laws, with time management, with the dirty house… whatever.  Poor teamwork surfaces in conflict.

There are pages and pages of advice on how to address Relationship Challenges in my eBook, Great Marriage! Great Sex!

The Third Struggle Area might be with
Cultural Challenges

Of the five areas where couples struggle, this is the one that has been given the least amount of attention, and frankly it is the area where I am doing the most reading right now.

Are the challenges facing a couple in Pakistan the same as the challenges facing a couple in Phoenix? 

The differences in cultural approaches to sex can be absolutely startling.  Even in my own region, West Michigan, the variance from one religious sect to another can be outstanding.

Today, in our “flatter” world, cultural differences must be taken into consideration.

Are they at play in your relationship?

The Fourth Struggle Area might be with
Personal Challenges

Oh, my goodness… how many issues are there in this area of struggle?  Tons!

There are a lot of stories I could tell, but of course I can’t.  There are rules about confidentiality.  But what I have done is taken some of the stories, some of the general themes, and some of the very specific and very common personal issues and I have written about them in detail.

Why would a man fake orgasms?

How is depression affecting her desire for sex?

What role does a fear of control play is the loss of desire?

How is the management of anxiety connected to emotional and physical distance?

The list is long.

The Fifth Struggle Area might be with
Spiritual and Energetic Challenges

This might sound a little “new age” for you, but maybe not.  It sounds very scientific to me.

Energy = Matter

Change the flow of energy and you can change the presence of matter.

My whole life I’ve been on a spiritual quest.  In the 1970’s that took me to seven years of seminary education and resulted in three graduate degrees… all in an effort to see the face of God.

In the 1980’s I left all of that behind for a life outside of the box.  I became, in Sam Keen’s words, an “Outlaw.”

In the 1990’s I began to study Integral Theory.  I published my spiritual autobiography in a small journal, and gained some respect while also losing some friends.  My wife also began to study and practice Reiki.  Today she is a body-works professional and head of a team of healers.

I’m working on another ebook, “The Secret to a Sexy Marriage.”

It is about intention and the way we can direct our energy in positive, productive, creative ways so that we truly can live an abundant life.

If your energy is blocked, they you aren’t in the flow of life… and if you aren’t in the flow of life then the best you can hope for is a good screw. 

I want you to make love.

Spiritual and Energetic struggles are real, and you might well be out of sync with your own self, and with your partner’s self. 

Let me tell you, when you are in sync you can make fabulous love!

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There is new research being conducted daily on issues that might be very important to you.  I stay on top of emerging topics of concern and publish as frequently as I can to my blog.  For example, I’m sitting at my computer right now with four articles on my desktop.

First is on how being in love triggers the brains dopamine system.  “Puppy Love” is real, measurable, and it can lead to foolish behavior.  I want to unpack this biological link so that you can appreciate your pain.

Second is on how married couples have more sex than single people.  Is it just about proximity, or more?  Are you having more sex than the single people you know?  Probably not.

Third, and following the second, is the fact that recent research in the USA indicates that married couples are a minority in America.  So is there less sex in America because more couples don’t want to be married?  Is the institution of marriage the problem?  Is your marriage troubled and as a consequence your sexual relationship is troubled?  Which is the symptom and which is the cause? I could go on about this at length.

Fourth, and last… the Wall Street Journal has a front page article titled “An Arab Therapist Seeks to Lift the Veil on a Touchy Subject: Sex.”  To my audience in the Arab world… there is much I would like to say.

I send out a brief email notice when something new is published to my blog.  Make sure you sign up!

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I have confidence in you, and your ability to change the way you act, think, and feel.

You can powerfully impact your relationship so that you enjoy more intimacy and erotic sex.  I know it to be true.

I wish you the very, very best!

Dr. Andrew D. Atwood
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Licensed Master Social Worker
Fountain Hill Center for Counseling and Consultation
Grand Rapids, MI  49503
616.456.1178
DrAtwood@Hopefulsolutions.net

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